Why the Holidays Can Feel Overwhelming

Ever wondered why a season meant for joy can sometimes feel overwhelming?

As the festive season approaches, we picture warmth, connection, and celebration. Yet, for many, this time of year stirs unexpected emotional turbulence.

In my work, I’ve noticed a pattern: two peak periods when people seek support—right after the holidays and after summer. It seems counterintuitive, doesn’t it? These are supposed to be times of happiness. But from a psychological lens, holidays can activate deep emotional layers: unresolved family dynamics, grief for those no longer with us, and old roles resurfacing. Expectations clash, and the pressure to “feel festive” can amplify loneliness or inadequacy—especially when reality doesn’t match the idealised image of harmony.

Many experience what I call a post-holiday emotional crash: exhaustion, disappointment, and lingering tension from difficult interactions. This isn’t weakness—it’s a normal response to relational stress and overstimulation.

If this resonates, here’s something to keep in mind:

✅ Emotional preparation matters

✅ Boundaries are healthy


✅ Self-compassion is powerful

The holidays don’t have to be perfect—they just need to be authentic. Give yourself permission to be honest, set limits, and prioritize your well-being. Sometimes, the most meaningful celebrations are the ones where we show up as ourselves.

Wishing you strength, peace, and authenticity this holiday season.